"To love without understanding harms the object of your love" (Thich Nhat Hanh) For us, to code without understanding harms the product of our code -- our software. And quietly hollow out our own skills in the process. So how can you use AI as your coach, your teacher, and your partner in exploration? How can you prevent the brain rot of passivity? And when you're not writing it -- how can you keep all of the new code in your head? This talk aims to ensure your favourite LLM makes you a better developer, not a worse one. I'll share a system for collaborating on software that leaves you sharper, more skilful, and still the one who understands what's running in production.